Coming Together in Love

In our imaginations we believe that love is apart from us. Actually there is nothing but love, once we are ready to accept it. Deepak Chopra
Coming Together in Love
Q. I have noticed in various clusters of family, or friends, and in two groups that I meet with somewhat regularly, that the quality of love, trust, and openness that is present in the group seems to be increasing. It’s very wonderful, and others notice it also.  A couple of people have referred to the phenomenon as “the love field.”  I am wondering what you think about this, and if any of your other readers have had this. Anonymous
A. The “love field” you are speaking of, also know as the “unified field,” is what I experience in groups when, like you say, trust develops and hearts open. If we consider, that at some level Love, or as some say, God, permeates everything, then when we sit in a room with a group of people or do anything for that matter, love is always present. It always exists. We need only recognize its presence to become aware of it. When a number of us relax our guards around each other, there is nothing blocking our experience of this love.
This field can happen anywhere. The more unguarded we are, the more we open our hearts to everything around us, the more we have a conscious awareness of its presence.
I headed a program in public middle schools in Boulder Colorado. That program was called “Community in the Classroom.” We taught trust, community and team building activities to the students and teachers. The students would learn to depend on each other and laugh together. Once this level of comradery was accomplished, active listening was taught.  Then imaginary and cognitive questions about life would be posed to the students.  They would sit in a circle with their teacher and two facilitators and listen deeply to one another. Over the course of a semester, they learned to trust each other with their feelings, thoughts and opinions. You knew trust was present because this “love field” was potent. They experienced a level of sharing with each other that doesn’t normally happen in the course of your average school day.  And for many, it was a new experience all together.
We had this same experience when at the end of a school year, we presented this same talking circle to the teachers and principal of this middle school. The teachers (a more skeptical group I’ve never met) sat in a circle and we asked them two questions. First, to share what they loved to do when they weren’t teaching. Once the question went around the circle, we asked them, “If they could change the way they experienced their day in the classroom with their students, what would that look like?” As each of them answered that question, they not only began to remember why they chose teaching as their profession, they also appreciated their fellow staff members in a way they hadn’t before. Again, that “love field” was experienced. They were able to see their commonality. At the end of the session, one teacher made the comment, “We should start our year off this way, instead of ending it. We never take the time to get to know each other like this.”
They might not have said they were experiencing a “love field,” but I believe it was the same experience you are referring to. When we take the time to experience our commonality and honor our differences, “What’s not to love?”
We often think of love as the love between two people whether that be a man and woman, friends, adult and child, or the love between a pet and their caretaker. To limit our thinking in this way, is to close one’s self to the expression of collective love, universal love.
You are fortunate to have so many opportunities to experience this “every day miracle.” If others wish to share their experience with this “love field,” please email me your account and as space permits, I will include your comments in this column. What a wonderful way for the community of Maui to be aware of all the love that abides in its midst.
A toast to Aloha!
Jasmyne Boswell is a Life Coach, Marketing Consultant and Writing Coach. For over 28 years she has been a mid-wife to professionals in all fields, helping them successfully overcome personal stumbling blocks, birth their businesses, practices, and projects. She uses her creative gift with the written word to help bring your ideas into form. Jasmyne can be reached at 808-268-5807 or by visiting www.jasmyneconsulting.com.